LET’S FACE IT
entering midlife
is a mind f*ck
my name is ashley kelsch
and i work with middle aged people who feel stressed & Stuck about where they are in life
“Or In Their Words;
Feel Like They Are Aging Out,
Never Thought ‘This’ Is Where They’d Be,
Believe It’s Too Late Now”
Midlife is not a crisis; it’s a calling
Ready to Unf*ck Your Life?
It’s Simpler Than You Think.
There’s just one thing you need to do:
Change Your Mind.
Are you in?
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UNF*CKING
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UNF*CKING • MID • LIFE •
unf*cking Midlife means adopting:
an ageless attitude
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Do you feel like... it's too late to change your career, start saving money, leave your marriage, get in shape or find love?
Does it seem like...
everyone around you took the right steps to ensure financial freedom, are happy and secure in their relationships and that you are way behind?
Are you frustrated that... your body, hormones and looks are out of your control? That you'll have to work the rest of your life? That finding a partner and having sex won't be as easy as when you were younger? Your family demands too much of you?
And when it comes down to it, do you...
wish you'd known before what you know now?
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Relationships: Changing dynamics with partners, family, and friends.
Aging: Physical changes and emotional impacts.
Sex: Changes in desire, intimacy, and sexual health.
Feeling Lost: Questioning purpose and direction.
Loss of Control: Dealing with unpredictability and uncertainty.
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Rediscover your sense of self and worth beyond the context of your age, so you can live the life you want.
How to manage your nervous system, emotions and thoughts effectively, so you can create new behaviors and ways of experiencing life.
Learn and embody lifelong practices that will teach you how to rely on your own inner wisdom for guidance, self soothe your nervous system in the face of discomfort and not lose sight of who YOU want to be in life.
It's Time For the Change if you
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Believe midlife means your best years are over and it's too late for change.
Let's delete that belief and decide how the best. years of your life are just beginning AND are going to go.Are stuck, torn between holding onto the past, and fearing what the future might bring.
We can break free from the past and creat the future you desire and deserve.Struggle with concerns about your relationships, finances, and the ticking clock.
I'll show you how to navigate these midlife challenges with confidence and clarity
Feel like you have no control over your changing body, hormones (I’m talking to you guys, too!) or emotions
HEALTH IS WEALTH Let's talk about the endocrine system and take control !Learn how your daily stress levels, nutrition and exercise influence your body and mind and implenent new habits that will transform your body and mind.Have internalized society's message that after 40, your sex life, looks, and opportunities are in decline—that your relevance is fading and your best days are behind you.
Let's shatter those stories and redefine what midlife can be for you.Experience physical and mental burnout, anxiety and overwhelm.
I'll show you how to address your stress levels head-on and complete the cycles.
My approach
Real change isn’t about quick fixes or surface-level tweaks—it’s about diving deep into the whole picture: body, mind, and soul. My approach is unapologetically holistic because true transformation demands it. We start by understanding the nervous system, managing stress, and incorporating movement and nutrtion that improves your set point.
Then, we get real about the beliefs and stories you’ve been living by, rewriting them to serve you better.
Lastly, we make sure to connect with the deeper wisdom of your soul—because that’s where the real magic happens.
This all-in approach doesn’t just ignite change; it sustains it, leading you to a life that’s not just unfucked, but bigger than you could have imagined.
Rest assured, I practice what I preach.
As I have lived into my forties, I have listened to people tell me I've aged out of the dating pool; that it's too late to change my career; that I can't stay in shape; that I should have learned all these 'life lessons' earlier; that I am too old to be giving out advice.
Honestly, it's been a bit of a mind f*ck.
And the I thought, to hell with this!
I'm going to unf*ck that mindset,
let go of outdated social beliefs that are holding me back and
live a life that gets better with age...
I'm going to adopt an Ageless Attitude AND show others how they can, too.
What people are saying
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I didn't believe what she told me, but over time my brain adapted and believed what we dug deep for and I am forever changed and forever grateful to this woman
Gosh where do I begin...
I knew who Ashley was through mutual friends and obviously her old shop Teddies For Bettys on 2nd. I was following her on instagram and had been for a few months after I separated from my husband. I had developed feelings after that for someone who was not good for me and what I was going through but I hung on to not feel full loneliness or my feelings. I was sad, irrational, didn't trust, angry, and discouraged with life. She started posting about relationship coaching and I finally decided I need help if I am to find true love(s) again. I wanted to be calm, patient, trusting, and unguarded in my upcoming dating life. So I hired her for the 8 week relationship coaching program and off we went. It took time, patience, lots of tears, lots of confusion, healing, strength, and sheer dedication to grow out of my old ways. We completed the 8 week, but I wasn't done and hired her for another 10 week block. She helped me through the hardest year of my life to date. Divorcing a relentless man during a pandemic. it was brutal. There are more layers of the divorce that I needed to forgive myself for, relate to others on, grow and learn from, and so on. Ashley helped me do all of these and much much more. I can now manage my thoughts and get through tough times much easier, without letting circumstances take me to the ground. She also has incorporated business coaching into my sessions, which I still see her weekly by the way. She has helped me take my self confidence and my career to a level I never thought was possible. I did not think I could feel as good, happy, and solid as I do now. I didn't believe what she told me, but over time my brain adapted and believed what we dug deep for and I am forever changed and forever grateful to this woman. I know my future is going to be amazing and what I was searching for when I left my husband and when I hired Ashely. She is the real deal. No bull shit. No excuses. Life changer.
Thank you Ashely.
43 yrs Female
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She encouraged me to explore my own desires and aspirations, which helped me become a better version of myself!
Rating: ★★★★★
I had the pleasure of meeting Ashley with my best guy friend! We met later later that week for coffee and she provided me invaluable insight to dating in my early thirties. Her funny and genuine demeanor created an open space for me to share my thoughts, concerns, and aspirations. Her deep understanding of human psychology and relationships became evident as she delved into the complexities of modern dating!
She also recognized the potential for a meaningful connection between my best guy friend and me, and she encouraged me to explore it further.
Fast forward to today, and I am delighted to report that my best guy friend and I have bee n dating for half a year!
She also provided me with valuable advice on personal growth. She encouraged me to explore my own desires and aspirations, which helped me become a better version of myself!
31 yrs Female
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I quickly recounted Ashley’s advice about being clear with intention, and how the person will respect you for being open, honest, and straight forward
A year ago, I started reading, and listening to Ashley’s advice. I was transitioning from married to single life. I didn’t think much of it at the time. I wasn’t actively dating, and had few touch points (with the topics). I did however, recognize Ashley’s sharp, intuitive mind. How she had a highly evolved understanding of people, and of human behavior.
Now, as I said, I wasn’t there yet. Fast forward a year, and most I definitely am. I get it, I’ve lived it, and many of the tactics/approaches Ashley espouses, I’ve either leveraged, or referenced in some capacity.
Here is one example, I started dating someone about a month ago. She checks a lot of boxes, but I also know I’m not ready for the big commit; she is. I quickly recounted Ashley’s advice about being clear with intention, and how the person will respect you for being open, honest, and straight forward. Well, that’s a thousand percent true. Now, we have a clear understanding of where we are. I probably wouldn’t have done that two years ago. I would have shrunk, been caught in a mess. In fact, I probably could have used some of Ashley’s advice in my previous marriage…before it was too late.
Anyway, I truly value Ashley’s insight, and her very candid approach. I think it even helps me manage my sales team better.
Thanks, Ashley!
54 yrs Male
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She truly understood the situation from a place of not only caring for me, but the other people in my world she knew would be impacted by my actions.
In workin with Ash, I learned something unique about her; she works on relationships because she creates them. She gets to know you, intimately. She truly understands and shows an extraordinary level of compassion for the complexity that can be modern relationships. As a person who has sought her advice, direction, counsel, encouragement, and boundary establishing advice - all of the above- as it relates to what is a very complicated relationship that mattered to me. Her advice was heartfelt, compassionate and from a place of understanding that every situation is unique. She truly understood the situation from a place of not only caring for me, but the other people in my world she knew would be impacted by my actions. For that she gets a gold star in my book. I cannot recommend her any higher!
54 yrs Male
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I had been trying to do that on my own for so long, having her come in and coach me on this was so amazingly invaluable
I am an artist and mother of a preschool aged child. I was going through a divorce and trying to transition my career to focus solely on my art business when I reached out to Ashley. I was afraid that I had too much chaos going on in my life to start working with her, but she assured me that we are always dealing with change and chaos in life and that is the right time to start coaching. She was right. I have been able to learn and apply emotional management skills to my life during a time where I felt that was impossible. I had been trying to do that on my own for so long, having her come in and coach me on this was so amazingly invaluable.
We focused specifically on business and relationship coaching, but her philosophy penetrates all areas I wanted to work on. I was familiar with some of the frameworks that she draws inspiration from before meeting her, but she brought me into a deep dive of further understanding as well as teaching me how to actually apply that knowledge. She has a way of deducing down huge concepts to a graspable awareness while pointing out your own blind spots
40 yrs Female
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When I first started working with Ashley I was stuck in a toxic dead end situation
I knew what I was doing was unhealthy and detrimental to my mental health. I had been to therapy and hadn’t really found it to be helpful in that I needed actual tools to help me understand my behavior and build the confidence I needed to make a change. Ashley’s direct yet kind approach coupled with strategies and techniques for helping me see the big picture and my own power was exactly what I needed. She patiently listened, guided me to think differently about myself and followed up with encouragement and advice that truly struck a chord. Many of the things she taught me I still reference today when I’m feeling stuck or need to make a change in my life. I’m now two years out from this relationship and happy to say I’m stronger and happier than ever. I credit Ashley for helping me get to this point and would recommend working with her for sure!
47 yrs Female
I’ve spent the last 25 years busting my ass to prioritize my body and mind, but it wasn’t until this past year that I found true ease in both. Before that, I was a hot mess—stressed out, anxious, and constantly freaking out about money, my career, my kids' well-being, and the future. All of my decisions were driven by panic, pressure, and putting out fires.